I missed last Seth-urday so this edition, conveniently posted by Seth today as “Rightsizing Your Passion”, does a triple touching on both embracing failure (“fear of failure”), leadership and management balance (maximising your goals or minimising your fear) and death of dreams (“fear is the dream killer”)…
- “Excitement about goals is often diminished by our fear of failure or the drudgery of work.
- If you’re short on passion, it might be because your goals are too small or the fear is too big.
- Do a job for a long time and achieve what you set out to achieve, and suddenly, the dream job becomes a trudge instead. The job hasn’t changed–your dreams have.
- Mostly, though, it’s about our fear. Fear is the dream killer, the silent voice that pushes us to lose our passion in a vain attempt to seek safety.
- While you can work hard to dream smaller dreams, I think it’s better to embrace the fear and find bigger goals instead.”
Seth’s reflections dovetailed well with another piece this week by another of my favourite bloggers, Geoffrey James. His piece ‘How To Be Happy At Work’ counterbalanced Seth’s call to ‘big dreams’ with a call for ‘new rules’ about what drives happiness…
“I once worked with a sales guy who was always angry at the people he worked with…He was making himself miserable, because just about anything set him off…I once asked him what made him happy. His answer: ‘The only thing that makes this !$%$#! job worthwhile is when I win a $1 million account.’ I asked him how often that happened. His response: ‘About once a year.’ In other words, this guy had internal rules that guaranteed he’d be miserable on a day-to-day basis, but only happy once a year.”
Leadership is embracing failure to find bigger goals. Management is ensuring happiness with affirming internal rules.