As school finishes up with final exams and papers, time to step back and identify a few lessons to unlearn in the piece “10 Life Lessons You Should Unlearn”…
- Problems are bad. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its own solution.
- It’s important to stay happy. Solving a knotty problem can help us be happy, but we don’t have to be happy to feel good.
- I’m irreparably damaged by my past. Painful events leave scars, true, but it turns out they’re largely erasable.
- Working hard leads to success. Baby mammals, including humans, learn by playing, which is why "the battle of Waterloo was won on the playing fields of Eton."
- Success is the opposite of failure. Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn.
- It matters what people think of me. "But if I fail," you may protest, "people will think badly of me!"
- We should think rationally about our decisions. Your rational capacities are far newer and more error-prone than your deeper, "animal" brain
- The pretty girls get all the good stuff. Oh, God. So not true. While everyone’s looking at them, virtually no one sees them.
- If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect. Check it out: People who have what you want are all over rehab clinics, divorce courts, and jails. That’s because good fortune has side effects, just like medications advertised on TV.
- Loss is terrible. Live your truth, losses be damned. Just like that, your heart and soul will return home.
In fact, every one echoes a previous Embracing Failure post…