Gapingvoid - Dont worry if you suck


As school finishes up with final exams and papers, time to step back and identify a few lessons to unlearn in the piece “10 Life Lessons You Should Unlearn”…

  1. Problems are bad. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its own solution.
  2. It’s important to stay happy. Solving a knotty problem can help us be happy, but we don’t have to be happy to feel good.
  3. I’m irreparably damaged by my past. Painful events leave scars, true, but it turns out they’re largely erasable.
  4. Working hard leads to success. Baby mammals, including humans, learn by playing, which is why "the battle of Waterloo was won on the playing fields of Eton."
  5. Success is the opposite of failure. Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn.
  6. It matters what people think of me. "But if I fail," you may protest, "people will think badly of me!"
  7. We should think rationally about our decisions. Your rational capacities are far newer and more error-prone than your deeper, "animal" brain
  8. The pretty girls get all the good stuff. Oh, God. So not true. While everyone’s looking at them, virtually no one sees them.
  9. If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect. Check it out: People who have what you want are all over rehab clinics, divorce courts, and jails. That’s because good fortune has side effects, just like medications advertised on TV.
  10.   Loss is terrible. Live your truth, losses be damned. Just like that, your heart and soul will return home.

In fact, every one echoes a previous Embracing Failure post…