You don’t need haters to face a bit of hate every date. Buzzfeed cites a number of self-imposed “hates” – your degree and your relationship – is its piece “Mistakes you make in the 20s that don’t actually matter” amongst other failures
- Getting a degree in something you hate
- Waiting to travel
- Getting yourself fired
- Picking the wrong career
- Dropping out of graduate school
- Being in a long-term relationship you hate
- Ending a friendship
- Leaving a job for a relationship (or a relationship for a job)
For each one, Buzzfeed describes…
- “Why it feels like the end of the world”
- “Why it’s totally fine”
Two other inspired advice must-reads with a healthy dose of failure embracing for twenty-somethings are (a) Scott Adams’ book “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big”, and (b) the just updated infamous “6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person.”
Haters gotta hate. And you can hate back. Or you can ignore them. Or you can embrace the hate. Like Honey Maid (above), who made no mistakes in spelling out their message of love for all their detractors, and Spirit Airlines (below), who gave out free frequent flyer miles to customers who raised complaints…
- “The makers of Honey Maid graham crackers have come up with a unique response to anti-gay backlash by some against its commercial featuring two gay dads and their family. They printed out the negative comments and turned them into a piece of art that spells out ‘Love.”
- “Low-cost carrier Spirit Airlines, one of the most complained-about airlines in the industry, is trying to harness that hate (and generate publicity) with a campaign inviting travelers to vent about any airline, including Spirit, in up to 140 characters. ‘We want to change the way people think about air travel and educate them about the Spirit way of traveling," said Ben Baldanza, Spirit’s CEO, in a statement. ‘We’re going to Hug The Haters.’ Each “venter” who participates in Spirit’s Hate Thousand Miles Giveaway will receive 8,000 of the airline’s frequent-flier miles.”
You might not want to embrace spelling mistakes for your tattoo, but possible so in other places according to Kevin Roose in his piece “How Spelling Mistakes and Bad E-mail Etiquette Can Help You Get Ahead” He highlights the example of the email respond by Snapchat CEO Evan Spiegel to Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg…
“Spiegel’s e-mail, which he released earlier this week after a Forbes profile characterized the exchange in a way he didn’t appreciate, has been called cocky and arrogant. And it was. But it was also brilliant. By one-upping Zuckerberg’s breezy, informal style in his reply, Spiegel positioned himself as the CEO’s equal. Most people in Spiegel’s position would have conveyed shock and breathless excitement over being approached by someone like Zuckerberg. And I’d bet that Facebook’s subsequent pursuit of Snapchat – the social network offered $3 billion for the app last year, an offer Snapchat refused – is partially related to the fact that Spiegel played hard to get, and dialed down his enthusiasm from the start.”
Mind you, the fact that Zuckerberg was making an overture in the first place indicated that Spiegel had some standing with which to assert his status-levelling familiar tone. I have also witnessed a number of clueless folks try on the matey approach, partially expressed by sloppy writing, in totally inappropriate circumstances with disastrous consequences.
It’s kind of like modern art. Many people look at the apparently random shapes and lines and think their kindergartner could make such a mess. But the authentic and successful modernists are actually first very accomplished traditional artists as well. They know their medium, their tools and their technique. They are in total control of their “messiness” for a productive and creative result.
Seth-urday post today is about difference between a blemish and a tattoo. In “Tattoo Thinking”, he urges people to realise that most things you do in life do not have the permanence of tattoos…
- “A tattoo is basically forever. You should think pretty hard before you get one, because it’s largely an irreversible decision. Just about every choice you make with your project and your career, though, doesn’t last forever. And the benefit of taking a risk is significantly higher than it is with a tattoo. A landing page, a pricing move, a bit of copy–they don’t last much more than a day, never mind a lifetime. Higher benefits, lower risk, what are you waiting for? So go ahead and act as if your decisions are temporary. Because they are. Be bold, make mistakes, learn a lesson and fix what doesn’t work. No sweat, no need to hyperventilate.”
And frankly, even tattoos can be removed (with a bit of expense and discomfort).
Some extensive travel in recent weeks has put a blemish on the regularity of my posts. But according to my friend and digital marketing maven Allister Frost, that’s not such a bad thing. His recent post “The Blemish Effect” explained how a blemish is better than perfection…
- “In this situation, many people will opt for Book B with its 4.6 star rating, rather than Book A with its perfect 5 star score. Under logical scrutiny this may seem counterintuitive, but researchers refer to this phenomenon as the blemish effect, a nature human bias towards the most credible, authentic information sources. Book A loses out because its reviews are marginally less plausible than those given to Book B. We all know that nothing is perfect in this world, so the reviews for Book A may unwittingly raise alarm bells in our heads. “Surely not everyone can think that book is perfect,” we ask ourselves. Our thoughts may even turn to wondering whether the reviews have been placed there by friends of the author, or indeed by the author themselves.”
“You have to go with your reads. There’s no sense second-guessing yourself afterwards.” – Worst AKo Ever
In today’s World Series of Poker Final Table, 9 highly successful players are going to head home having failed to nab the big prize. I’ve selected a few choice words from the oracle of all-in, Aidan Lloyd on persevering through this final hurdle…
“Playing poker can be likened to being on a long bus ride. You want to stay on the bus, and go as far as you can. Sometimes, though, you’re forced off the bus, dropped off essentially in the middle of nowhere. How you deal with that situation has a lot to do with how successful a player you’re going to be. What do you need to do when you’re dropped off in the middle of nowhere? Hard as it might seem, you just need to walk. Use your own two legs and get moving. You won’t get there as fast as if you were still on the bus, but with persistence and luck, you’ll get there.” – The Middle of Nowhere
“Pivoting” is an example of the “failing properly.” Failure is not the problem. Doing it properly is. A failure that drives a pivot to a new opportunity is one good way. Leadership guru John C. Maxwell offers a prescription and a proscription in his piece “Traits of Successful Failure”…
- Optimism. Find the benefit in every bad experience.
- Responsibility. Change your response to failure by accepting responsibility.
- Resilience. Say goodbye to yesterday.
- Initiative. Take action and face your fear.
And by contrast, the 5 traits of poor failing…
- Comparison. Either measuring your failures against those of others, or convincing yourself that your circumstances were harder than theirs.
- Rationalization. Telling yourself and others that you have good reasons for not getting over past hurts and mistakes. Believing that those who encourage you “just don’t understand.”
- Isolation. Pulling back and keeping yourself separate from others, either to avoid dealing with the issues, or to continue to feel sorry for yourself.
- Regret. Getting stuck lamenting or trying to fix things that cannot be changed.
- Bitterness. Feeling like a victim and blaming others for negative outcomes.